Accepting Aging

Say it isn’t so. Out walking this morning, I glanced down at my short-pant-clad legs and saw something I had not noticed before. The last time I looked at my legs, I remember seeing nicely toned, could-be-a-little-more-tanned thighs holding me up. Today I swear I saw the legs of an “older” man. Nothing drastic but you know how the skin seems to have been over stretched just a bit and is not clinging as tightly to the muscles beneath? Then it dawned on me – I am getting older, not just on the inside but on the outside as well.

How was it possible for aging to catch up with me? I have been an exercise fanatic since college and even today have a regular routine. I ride the stationary bike 3-4 times a week for 40 minutes with my heart rate around 130-140, I lift weights twice a week, I do a yoga/pilates routine twice a week, and on the weekends, my wife and I take a long walk in the nearby hills or beach. We eat very well avoiding fat and salt, go organic whenever we can, and do not over eat. Sure we are both over 50 now but what the heck!

I guess when it comes to aging, you can run but you cannot hide.

I have always been a realist. I accept the facts for what they are and go with the flow. This aging thing is just another part of my life and I need to realize and accept that fact. Aside from the physical aspects (I will miss my young legs), I realized there are many positives that have come with my advancing years and the knowledge I have gained.

(1)  I have successfully raised two wonderful children who make me proud each time we interact. Each has grown into a young adult filled with those values that are important in life and critical to their continuing happiness. Had I not grown “older” (not OLD), I would not have been with them each step of the way helping where needed, encouraging on occasion, and admiring their progress often. I would not change it for the world.

(2)  With age comes wisdom – friends and family may quickly point out that I have not nearly reached the pinnacle of my ultimate wisdom, but I have been learning along the way.  I have learned not to sweat the little things but instead to accept that not everything will go the way I want, nor necessarily should it. I have learned to immeasurable value of my family who have been with me through numerous difficult times, supported me, loved me, and without whom I would not be the person I am today (or maybe even here today). I have learned that it is okay to cry because if you feel like crying, there is a reason. I have learned that my wife is my best friend, my confidant, consciously blind to my faults, always there when I need her. I have learned that money does not make the moment nor buy happiness – that can only be found within you.

(3)  Pursuing a passion is what ultimately makes each day worth living. I realize that I worked 30 years (probably a few more to be added to that) at various jobs to make a living. Although that is a worthwhile, noble pursuit and it does get you up each day, you will not likely arise with the excitement, energy, and urge to get to it. I am not complaining – I did what I had to do, met some wonderful people along the way, participated in the growth of multiple companies, and survived. But my advice to those starting down the employment path or still early in their careers will be to look for that passion. How much better to start your day WANTING to get going, anxious to do what you LOVE, a force to be dealt with. If you do what you love, the money will come. And even if it is not a fortune, don’t trade your happiness for the promise of a big bank account.

(4)  Frugal can be fun! Life can be enjoyed on a budget, economically. Extravagant spending is for the rich and spending more does not proportionately increase pleasure. Finding a good deal is satisfying in itself and as long as you are with the one you love, every moment has the potential to be memory making.

(5) Just because we are getting a bit along in years does not mean we cannot try to look our best. Looking good makes us feel  good. There is no reason we should not take advantage of products and services available to enhance our positives and perhaps tone and brighten any weaknesses. Bye Bye Foundation cosmetics is one source that can provide full coverage of blemishes and skin imperfections. Why not look your best no matter what our age?

(6)  I cannot change the past, I do not know what the future holds, so my best bet is to live in this present moment. My aim is to focus on today, now and live it fully.

As we advance in life it becomes more and more difficult, but in fighting the difficulties the inmost strength of the heart is developed. ~ Vincent van Gogh

Life is a journey and our faithful travel companion is our aging mind and body. We can prepare for the trip with maps and plans and wishes, but the road ultimately leads where it will. The best way to enjoy the trip is to appreciate each moment, each new sight and sound and feeling. Live, learn, love, and keep going. Who knows what lies beyond the next sunrise…


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7 thoughts on “Accepting Aging

  1. I love this piece. I can relate to virtually everything you said, from the two gown children to my wife being my best friend. I did have passion for my career until the last 5 years or so before I stopped.. Then, the spark was gone.

    This one of my favorite posts of yours, Dave. Very nicely written.By the way, I just looked at my legs and think I’ll go put on long pants.

    • Thanks Bob – sometimes the inspiration takes hold.

      And I think you and I are in luck. Apparently the new “shorts” go well below the knee so what we can’t see can’t hurt us!

  2. I haven’t even worn shorts or short sleeves in years!!-lol. I was so happy when mid calf length pants became popular for women.

    Great post! My 83 year old mom is always saying my 85 year old dad needs to “learn to be old.” He still sees himself as the once-jaunty 20 year old Marine and he keeps saying “I just never thought this would happen to me (getting old). I think he suffers more for what once was than if he just learned to live in the now and quit regretting that his youth is over and done.

    On my last physical, the doctor remarked that I had “good muscle tone.” The added implication however, was “for someone your age.” Seems like there is always that qualification anymore with compliments.

    • Kind of the circle of life huh – when we are kids, its all about getting to that next age and the older we look, the better. If we only knew then what we know now…

  3. Bob…regarding number two…only sometimes. I often do things as stupid as I ever did…but with age I’ve learned to hide it better.

    Regarding number five…are you a Friend of Bill too?

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