Retirement is Full of Surprises

If you think life is full of surprises just wait until you retire! No matter how prepared you might think you are your second act will be littered with unexpected twists and turns, unimagined adventures and new experiences, and hopefully many truly memorable moments. But until you are actually living the life you only think you know what to expect.

Before I retired I did my due diligence. I read books and blogs, talked with retirees, and tried to figure out what I would like and not like to pursue once I departed the working world. I imagined what it would be like to get up each day with nothing required of me beyond what I wanted to do. It sure sounded good but things don’t always turn out the way you plan.

Out of the blue

While still a youngster at the childlike age of 53, I found myself unexpectedly unemployed with no real prospects on the horizon. I searched valiantly and relentlessly for my next gig but after a year of rejections and “we decided to go another way” I was pretty disheartened. I didn’t feel that old. I thought my years of experience – decades actually – were surely worth something to someone. My plans regarding retirement had me calling it quits closer to 62 – I was far short of that target.

Fortunately I was able to retire earlier than planned. My wife kept working so our medical coverage was taken care of and cash flow remained positive. My days have evolved into a collection of activities and interests that keep me engaged from morning to night. I love being retired but never forget how blessed I am – not everyone’s situation is so rosy. I am learning to expect the unexpected.

You’re not too old

Some view retirement as the end of the road. Your career is behind you, the family is raised and on their way, and you have achieved some or maybe all of those major goals you set back in the day. Not much is expected of you now – just take it easy and enjoy the fruits of you labor. As my dad would say, “sit back and watch the grass grow.”

Not so fast.

This generation of retirees often enters their second act energized and excited about the coming decades. Accustomed to busy active days they have no plans to watch retirement from the sidelines. Finally granted the free time to pursue what lights their individual fire retirees are stepping out. So long as you remain physically able you can experiment and try new things. Who says you are too old? Stories of septuagenarian and octogenarian achievements are well documented. Feel free to add your name to the list.

You can get along with your spouse 24/7

If you think about it the longest time you have been with your partner 24/7 is probably on a 1-2 week vacation. That is not much of a test for the 10-20 year stretch that retirement promises. But you know what? You can make it work and it can be fabulous. My wife and I have been retired together a little of one year so we are still newlyweds in terms of our retirement timeline. We have learned a lot about what we like to do together whether hiking or playing cards or getting to know the neighbors or entertaining. We have also learned the importance of having our own interests to pursue. A little time spent on our own makes time together more special. Best of all we are comfortable just being together. We don’t have to fill the air with small talk. We don’t have to “be on” all the time. We can just be in the same room reading or doing whatever and we are happy. A harmonious retirement is all about being sensitive to one another and maintaining a willingness to adapt. There is plenty of room for both or you.

There’s not enough time in the day

Before I retired I was concerned I would not have enough to keep me busy. Sure I had a few hobbies and had my eyes on exploring a few more but was that enough to occupy me 10 hours a day 7 days a week? I remember discovering a blog Retirement A Full-time Job where Sydney Lagier shared her retirement journey. It quickly became clear she was anything but bored. Sydney was always on the go trying new things and never looking back. So there was hope!

These days I get started around 7:30 in the morning with coffee and the newspaper (a real newspaper, not online). With the many different interests I pursue throughout the course of the average day, before I know it I am looking at cocktail hour. Who has time to be bored? I have learned you can never have too many hobbies/interests/passions. I remain always on the lookout for the next addition to my list. I won’t say I am as busy now as I was when working full time but I sure enjoy what I am doing much more.

I read somewhere “retirement is only the beginning”. Now is the time to enjoy all the surprises our second act has in store. :)

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Retirement Road Trips – Six Steps to Memorable Extended Travel

Written by Joe Bruner

Confident in the belief that life was about more than the career that I enjoyed, I retired on August 13, 2015 with the intent to begin the next chapter of a life well lived.  To be sure, I would miss all of the things that everyone mentions when leaving the work force—the friends, the challenges, the structure—but I never worried about being bored.  In the years leading up to retirement, I grew increasingly excited about the opportunities that lay ahead. There were books I wanted to read, a camera I wanted to use, stories I wanted to write, and, most importantly, vast stretches of America that I wanted to see.

Three days after retiring, my adorable wife and I left on the first of three extended road trips, each trip lasting a month or longer, and returning after every one genuinely grateful for the experience and eager to plan another.  We are certain there are many others in or nearing retirement with plans for extended travel at the top of their bucket list so, with that in mind, we want to share some of the lessons we learned which helped to make our experiences both memorable and rewarding.

Commitment

Before you make the plans for an extended road trip ask yourself some very probing questions. Can you live without the weekly golf match with the guys or the bridge luncheon with the girls? What about that fabulous birthday party in three weeks that is going to include everyone? Will I really enjoy being that far from the comforts of home? We had those questions and then some.  A recent survey showed that 60% of husbands wanted to spend more time with their spouse in retirement, but only 43% of wives felt the same.  Would Helen (adorable wife) survive with me stuck to her side for five weeks? Wanting to make this road trip so badly, I was almost afraid to ask, but I did and we had a serious discussion about it. Helen is a busy person and frankly, I was surprised (and thrilled) when she exclaimed enthusiastically “I’m all in”.  This is essential to success, so be sure you’re both committed.

Plan

A thorough plan takes time but it can be as exciting as the trip itself. We started planning almost two months out by selecting the region of the country and the cities we wanted to visit. We found Google Maps to be very helpful in calculating travel distances and selecting routes. Regardless of whether your preference is for campgrounds, motels, or even bed and breakfast inns, you should make confirmed reservations.  Once you’re on the road, your plans may change, and you can adjust accordingly, but having a confirmed reservation is a great comfort.  Reviews on Trip Advisor served as our guide for reservations. Two tips might prove useful; (1) Travel after school starts, usually around the middle of August when the crowds are reduced significantly and; (2) organize everything into a loose leaf notebook according to the cities you plan to visit.  We had a tab for each stop that included a hard copy of each reservation confirmation as well as magazine and newspaper articles about things to do in the area.  Add a couple of sheets of loose leaf notebook paper to each tab for notes.  It helps when submitting reviews on Trip Advisor for good (and bad) service for future travelers.

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Don’t Overdo It

On our first trip, we had so much energy and excitement flowing through us that we wanted to do it all. We were in Kure Beach, NC and had made two sightseeing trips two days in a row. In addition, we were having a hard time passing up all of the enticing places to eat and drink. At that point we realized that doing it all was impossible. We were near exhaustion and still had four weeks to go. Out of that weariness, two principal guidelines for extended road travel were born.  First, we would limit ourselves to no more than one major sightseeing excursion and one eating experience per day. We broke with this principle rarely. Second, we planned one or two “down days” where all travel activities were suspended. This gave us the chance to stretch the legs, catch up on email, do laundry, make trip notes and even pay bills.  Both guidelines kept us fresh and energized.

Don’t Fret Over Wardrobe

We discovered on about the second week that no one knows that you wore the same outfit last week. I found that I needed a good rain jacket, three pair of cargo pants (great for cell phone, receipts, maps, etc.), comfortable shoes and some golf shirts. I did pack one nice, dressy pants and shirt combo, but never used it. Helen’s advice is much the same—comfy shoes and comfy clothes— and make that suitcase as light as possible.

Senior Discounts are Plentiful

Travel can be expensive so we did a little research and found that businesses love giving discounts to Senior Citizens. With a little digging, I came up with almost three pages of discounts on food, lodging, and services that are there for the taking. Sometimes a cashier will give it without being asked (gray hair helps), but most of the time you have ask, so don’t be bashful…it pays off. The best discount of all is the National Park Senior Pass that permits the pass holder to bring three adults into a National Park for free for a lifetime. The pass is available to anyone over 62 for a one-time fee of ten dollars. The pass may only be purchased at a National Park (no mail or online purchase).  We rarely pass a National Park when traveling. Be sure and get a National Park Passport also. Collecting the stamps for each park is a lot of fun.

Roads Less Traveled

America is a place of staggering beauty. Without a doubt, the best way to see it is by traveling the roads that take you through the small towns and villages that make our country so unique. Our road trips took us through New York, Chicago, and Washington, D.C, but those can be busy and expensive places. Finding parking can sometimes be a challenge.  Some of our most memorable experiences however, were in towns like Beaufort, NC, Solomon’s Island, MD, Grey Eagle, MN, or Bayfield, WI. There is much to learn and do in small town America so stop, visit a Farmer’s Market, browse through the shops (we love antique shops and flea markets), taste the wonderful food of the region or walk through a park and introduce yourself to someone. If you’re fortunate, you may find a local festival underway where you can really get a feel for the culture like the one we found one this summer in International Falls, MN.

There is a lot of country out there just waiting to be seen and you’ve earned the opportunity to explore it all. We sincerely hope we have given a little help and insight to those of you with plans for extended travel in your “Golden Years”.  We especially hope that the first road trip is successful and leads to many more.  So, slow down and put away that smartphone, take the first exit off the interstate, and hit the road less traveled.

It’s only the beginning, but we’re happily Easin’ Along now…hopefully we’ll see you along the way.

Joe Bruner retired from a career in the home building industry and a career as an officer in the US Army Reserve.  He and his wife Helen live in Knoxville, Tennessee. They have written extensive articles about their travels on their website Easin’ Along (www.easingalong.com).