A Passion for Retirement

Life in general without passion is less than what we all hope for.

Retirement is no different and it can be even more important to have a passion to get us up and moving and really living our retired lives to the fullest.

Take a look at my guest post with some insights into the importance of passion in our retired lives.



Is your retirement fulfilling?

What is it about your typical retirement day that gives you a feeling of accomplishment? Getting out of bed in the morning, is there something on the horizon that adds a little spring to your step and a smile of anticipation to your face? Do you look forward to life or do you just get by?

Listen – are you living only a little and calling it a life?

Retirement is a big change. Moving from the perpetually-fast-paced working world into a slower motion way of life takes some getting used to. Everywhere we read that retired life is our time to do what we want to do when we want to do it. Our Golden Years hard earned and well deserved – we sure don’t want to waste them. But if these years are to be spent just killing time trying to stay busy to avoid boredom, that working world suddenly doesn’t look so bad.

In regards to fulfillment, Marcus Aurelius had a useful perspective:

Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones.

Live a good life. Have you heard that one before? The good life, but good for who? What is good for you may not necessarily be good for me.  And someone else view of fulfillment may fall short of my own vision.

In the end, we are each responsible to discover within ourselves what fulfills us and ultimately what makes it all worthwhile, life that is.

Is there somewhere a book to guide the way? Perhaps a course of study with CliffsNotes available to accelerate the process? To this point I have found no such thing. But maybe a few ideas of what has worked for others can help.

Do something to help someone – in his recent post Pushing Back Against the Box Bob Lowry shared with us his involvement with a prison ministry where he mentors a convict for six months upon their release. During that time the commitment is no small thing as Bob explains:

“As someone’s mentor I am expected to talk with him on the phone at least 4 times a week and visit him at the halfway house a minimum of once a week for the first four months. I am expected to help him develop a budget, stay away from old friends and habits, help him get a job, buy him clothes, drive him to medical appointments, and meet with his parole officer on a regular basis. I attend church services with him and I help him in his faith walk. I am the person he calls when he worries he’s about to make a mistake.”

Through Bob’s reaching out he is making a real difference in the lives of others. And the personal satisfaction and fulfillment he realizes I find truly inspiring. Although mentoring a convict may not be the path you choose, there are many ways to reach out and help others and as a pleasant side benefit feel good about yourself.

Ongoing projects and hobbies – if in your efforts to keep busy you are actually enjoying yourself with what you do, I believe you are experiencing a degree of fulfillment.  According to Webster’s Dictionary, to fulfill is to satisfy, to measure up to, to develop the full potentialities of. Fulfillment does not have to necessarily be a bolt of lightning from above – it can be experienced in smaller doses and still be a good thing. What is important is to do something rather than wait for something to be done to you.

A man may fulfill the object of his existence by asking a question he cannot answer, and attempting a task he cannot achieve. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Get outta bed! Having the resolve each day to get into action by a given hour puts a little routine and direction into your life. Not in a boring way but in an engaging way. Even if your plans do not go beyond a cup of coffee and reading the newspaper at 7 am, you have a starting point, you have a mission that gets you going. An object in motion tends to stay in motion so it is important to get that first push to get things rolling. You will never know what the day holds until you become part of it.

Have longer term plans, something on the calendar – you know when you return from a vacation and feel relaxed but a little bummed that your trip is over? And how wonderful it feels to look at the calendar and see your next trip already scheduled? I think it is important to always have something on the horizon to look forward to – maybe six months down the road, something to plan for, to build anticipation for, and to head toward. And don’t overlook the fact that the entire process of researching and preparing for an excursion is half of the fun – what a great way to learn about something new and then go actually live it!

Go back to work! If you are someone who actually enjoys working, there is no reason why you cannot do so in “retirement”.  There is a lot to be said about a positive environment where you are challenged and rewarded for your efforts. And if money is no longer the driving motivator, you can try your hand at a new “retirement career” pursuing a passion that you were unable to while actively employed. If you find fulfillment in work, go for it.

Nothing else matters much — not wealth, nor learning, nor even health — without this gift: the spiritual capacity to keep zest in living ~ Harry Emerson Fosdick

We each need to discover and realize our own fulfillment in retired life. It is a very personal thing. We can share in the experiences of others but until we find our own true path, until we incorporate ourselves and our passions into how we spend our days, we are only scratching the surface of our potential and sadly true fulfillment in retirement will remain elusive.

Don’t forget to pick up a free copy of Navigating the Retirement Jungle, available upon request by mailing to lovebeingretired@hotmail.com.

Would you donate a kidney?

The National Kidney Registry maintains a living database of kidney donors with a unique twist. In order to have access to the database and compatible donors, you or someone in your family must donate one of your kidneys to keep the chain going. With 200 transplants facilitated in 2010 they have literally saved the lives of people who without a kidney transplant might not be here today.

According to Katie Couric and the CBS News, every 90 minutes someone dies waiting for a kidney transplant and there are currently more than 87000 Americans on the waiting list for a new kidney.

Physically we can live with only one kidney. The actual transplant procedure takes about three hours. Modern medications to prevent rejection have come a long way and today donors do not necessarily need to be genetically similar to the recipient. A kidney transplant is considered a life-extending procedure typically enabling the recipient to live 10-15 years longer than if kept on dialysis. The bottom line is that for those with failing or failed kidneys, their life depends on a transplant.

As I learned more about this service and the incredible impact it had on families everywhere, I asked myself what would it take for me to donate a kidney? If someone I loved needed a kidney and I was a compatible donor, would I willingly offer myself or would I hesitate?

I think that all of us would like to believe that we would selflessly without hesitation say yes to immediate family members in need. Deep inside, we feel that we would likely agree to help out a close friend. But just how far is each of us willing to go? At what point would we say “no”?

I came up with a few questions to help me better understand myself and tried to answer them honestly.

  • Would I donate a kidney to my wife to save her life?
  • Would I donate a kidney to my child?
  • What about a more distant family member?
  • What about a good friend?
  • Would I donate a kidney for money? If so how much – what is my kidney worth to me in dollars and cents?
  • What unique or extreme circumstances might lead me to become a donor?
  • Would I ever unequivocally say no?

After thinking through how I would personally answer each question, I realized how difficult it is to make a final decision without actually being in the situation. For most of us it is a no brainer when it comes to family members and even close friends. But where would we absolutely say no? Without intimate knowledge of the people involved and their lives and their particular story, I don’t think we can know for sure how we would react.

I like to believe that for any given situation people will make the difficult choices to help their fellow human beings. Blood is thicker than water but love conquers all! Why else is it that we get a tear in our eye when we hear of the struggles of poor children around the world or the impact of disasters on the innocent? Why do we stand united against injustice and abuse? It is because we are basically good people and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

After I completed this exercise, I took a look at the list of those I would be willing to donate a kidney. I realized that these are the most important people in my life. Important enough for me to theoretically undergo an operation and donate one of my organs! But when was the last time I reached out to them, when did I last offer a good deed to these most significant in my life?

Although we may be fully willing to donate a kidney to someone we love, the likelihood is we will never be called upon to do so. So we need to show our love in slightly less dramatic ways. However we choose to show that we care is up to us. Just remember the fact we FEEL the love is not necessarily apparent until we SHOW the love.

Who would you add to your list?