The Real Price of Success – Sacrifices to build your Retirement Nest Egg

After a lifetime of work, as we retire to our second life, how will we define our success? Is it in the size of our bank account? Is it the collection of things we have amassed residing within the bigger-than-I-could-even-need-house? Or is it the memories of experiences and quality time spent with those who matter most to us? How big of a retirement nest egg do you need and at what cost?

It is a reasonable expectation that we work hard to make money to provide a good life for our family and prepare for our retirement – no one questions that. And along the way, it is expected that sacrifices need to be made. But the choice of what to sacrifice needs to be a conscious one as everything involves trade offs. In David Ning’s post “Sacrifices you should not make to save money” he acknowledges that sadly, people often neglect their friends and family as they endeavor to climb the corporate ladder. Whether consciously or otherwise, choices have been made and you are where you are because of them. But at what actual cost?


A hundred years from now it will not matter what my bank account was, the sort of house I lived in, or the kind of car I drove…but the world may be different because I was important in the life of a child – Simone Weil

The real costs of pursuing success

Success does not come cheap:

  • Commute time spent going to and from work each day – it is not unreasonable with rush hour traffic being what is to spend an hour plus commuting each day – each way. More than two hours every day just getting to work and back. These stress packed hours add up to many negatives that impact the rest of our life:
    • Stressful beginning to the work day – instead of arriving with a ready-to-go attitude, we are already beaten down.
    • Frustration as we wait in traffic, unsure of the cause or duration, just waiting and burning gas as our blood pressure rises.
    • Upon arriving home, wound tighter than a rubber band, tempers run short and patience is at a premium. Do you really want your first interaction with your smiling child running to welcome you home to be a snarl instead of a wide grinning hug? How long can a kid keep it up if each time they share their love you shut them down?
  • 60+ hour work weeks – no time for your spouse, no time for your children, and for sure no personal time for yourself.
  • Travel requirements – you need to be in Chicago tomorrow by noon for an important meeting and no one checked to learn your daughter has her ballet recital tomorrow evening. And guess who gets to explain to her why you cannot be there at this important event in her young life.
  • Weekends are not your own and your family misses you.

All in all this is a very unbalanced situation with the majority of your life revolving around your job. And what is you need to work after retirement? Each decision you make along your career path involves trade offs. Yes you want to provide for your family but without being a part of the family, who are you kidding? And once spent, you can never get this time back.

“The trouble with life in the fast lane is that you get to the other end in an awful hurry”John Jensen

I had a good friend who told me that he consciously spent his money on a beautiful home with fancy pool and tennis court and all the bells and whistles. If something should happen and he lost it all, he said he would just start over again. Throughout his career, he worked very hard and rarely saw his wife and kids, typically on a plane each Sunday, returning at week-end, ever in pursuit of fame and fortune. Yes he has an awesome house and all the “things” you could ever want. But I wonder, if he in fact did have to start over again, if anything would change? Maybe instead of such a monstrous castle, he would choose to attend a few of his son’s baseball games. Maybe he would choose a few more weekends away with his wife sharing and building on those moments that brought them together more than 30 years ago.

But you know what? He cannot go back. He lives the life he made and though very successful as measured by his bank account, I wonder how much more truly successful he could have been with a little less focus on money and a little more on the real cost to have that much money. We all need to realize before it is too late that true fulfillment in life and retirement goes far beyond a hefty bank account.

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Can You Afford to Retire?

Retirement looms on the horizon out there, somewhere, for each of us. Are you ready for retirement today? If not, when do you want to retire? When CAN you hope to retire? And what can you do NOW to assure that satisfying lifestyle you want and deserve? Take a look at the Social Security Retirement Planner and you will find a myriad of variables that go into evolving a successful retirement strategy. Within that list, there is one consideration generally first and foremost.

When Can I Afford Retirement?

So you are contemplating exiting the working world to take on the full time challenge of entertaining yourself and your spouse for the rest of your lives. You want to be mentally, emotionally and financially prepared for the many significant changes across all aspects of your life.

So what about the money? Running our of money is a common retirement fear. Start creating your financial strategy by putting on your budgeting hat. Your goal is to figure out how much money will you will be spending compared to how much money will be coming in.

First some good news – some of the expenses that occupied your pre-retirement budget spreadsheet are no longer! Take a look at how your retirement expenditures will change in retirement:

  • Mortgage – ideally at this stage, your home is paid off. If this is not the case, the likelihood is that you are living in a smaller house or condo which reduces your monthly payments.
  • Education – the kids are outta there and on their own (hopefully…) so this debt is paid in full
  • Car Payments – you own your car(s)
  • Retirement savings – you are no longer putting money into this fund
  • Commuting – a thing of the past

All of this helps with your bottom line. However there are basic costs that you will still bear. Some estimates are 70% of your pre-retirement salary each month go to meet your living expenses.

  • Food – you gotta eat. Track your monthly expenses for a few months to determine a baseline amount.
  • Medical – part of aging, these will be with you for the duration. Be sure to track your monthly prescription expenses. Here is a link to Medicare prescription coverage details.
  • Travel/entertainment – you will want to do more of this now that you are retired so be realistic in setting the amount
  • Gas (maybe an electric car in your future!)
  • Utilities – phone, electricity, internet
  • Insurance – car, home, health
  • Outstanding loans and financial commitments
  • Lotto tickets

On the flip side, you need to take a look at your sources of income which include:

  • Social Security – according to the Social Security Administration, SS benefits account for 39% of a typical retiree’s income. Start by estimating your Social Security earnings based upon when you retire. The longer you wait before starting to receive your benefits, the bigger your check – you can start receiving social security at 62. But if you do, there is an earnings cap – in 2010 dings you $1 in benefits for every $2 you earn over $14,160. When you reach the age of full retirement (65-67) you can earn as much as you want without impacting social security benefits.
  • 401k, IRAs, pension funds
  • Investments – dividends from stock, bonds, CDs, annuities, etc.
  • Continuing work – part time, internet-based, consulting, etc.
  • Other income – rental units, etc.

If there is one category of blog that is more widely represented in the blogsphere than any other, it has to be financial. There are banks, investment institutions, insurance companies, government sites, and individual financial planners with broad knowledge and experience in all things financial. They are good resources.

Discussed above is a basic exercise, a broad brush stroke in the painting of your retirement landscape. You need more planning, research and experienced advice to provide for your eventual peace of mind. But hey, you need to start somewhere…

Don’t forget to pick up a free copy of my Navigating the Retirement Jungle, available upon request by mailing to lovebeingretired@hotmail.com.