Do you remember what you had for dinner last night? How about the last time you took a little extra effort to dress up before you walk out the door? When did you last close your eyes and concentrate on the scent of a rose?
Little things indeed but what is life without noticing those nuances and hints that add to our quality of life?
In retirement we are finally able to slow down from the frenetic pace we have grown accustomed to and take time to literally smell the roses. Hurrying hither and yon is stressful and there is no place for stress in retirement! No more need to rush through a meal but instead concentrate on the flavors and combinations, the spices and nuances of what you put into your mouth.
We want and deserve to live the good life in retirement and being conscious of the moments that make up our life is a good place to start.
Take a look at this weeks US News & World blog 6 Ways to Improve the quality of your retirement. You can make it happen!
It is the bane of senior citizens that as we get older the likelihood of contracting some illness or disability increases. Hundreds of years ago, cancer was not so well known basically because people tended to die at an earlier age. According to Siddhartha Mukherjee in his book The emperor of all maladies the older we get the more likely cancer becomes as “mutations in cancer genes accumulate with aging; cancer is thus intrinsically related to age”.
So we are blessed by modern technology to live longer lives but the longer we live the more likely we are to contract cancer. What kind of rules are those!
Few of us have not been impacted by cancer affecting friends, family and sometimes ourselves. Is it possible there is anything positive to be found in the whole cancer experience? Is that kind of thinking even reasonable?
Take a look at this week’s blog Finding hope in cancer for a different perspective on cancer in hopes we might learn from survivors and possibly improve our own qualify of life.
Does it ever feel to you that even in retirement life there is just not enough time in the day? How often have you paused for a moment to contemplate your accomplishments for the day and found yourself at a lack for anything of merit? It’s not so much that we have a lot to do but more about looking back as another sun sets to find our to-do lists have not budged. Obviously something must be “getting done” since at least 12 hours have ticked off the clock. Tell me if this sounds at all like your world:
– Do you get caught up in a frenzy of busy activity, overlooking the beauty and wonder that is right in front of your nose as you rush through your duties?
– When you look back at your day, is it just a blur with no meaningful accomplishments?
– Do you listen without hearing when your spouse talks to you caught up in other far away thoughts?
– When a friend calls on the phone and has something important to discuss, do you find yourself hurrying the conversation so you can get back to what you were doing?
– Do you scratch off one item on your to-do list only to add three more?
All of these can add to a day that is out of control as you react rather than act. Unfortunately it is often the case that we have no one to blame but ourselves. Wasting time is too easy and as the saying goes, life is like a coin – you can spend it any way you want but you can only spend it once. And how are senior citizens typically spending their valuable time?
According to the Labor Department, senior citizens age 65+ spend 400 hours on average on “Other Leisure” time, which includes anything that’s not TV, socializing, relaxing and reading. Where is the rest of the time going? TV sucks up about 4.4 hours each day from the average senior citizen, more than the 3.3 hour Americans of all ages watch when the weekend rolls around.
Not only does TV dull your mind but as a sedentary event you get zero exercise (unless you are a fan of the Wii). And you can bet you are not honing your social skills as you sit zombie-like staring into the few minutes of content that are tantalizingly interspersed between hours of endless advertisements.
Just say NO!
Where can we spend “quality” time? The ‘ol clock is ticking away…
- Give a call to your mom, dad, son, daughter, friend or acquaintance just to say hello. Out of the blue with no special occasion your thoughtfulness may just make their day. It is impossible to stay in touch with everything that goes on in the lives of those around us. But just showing an interest can go a long way.
- Get away for the weekend or weekday since retired folks have that luxury. You can find great deals on sites like Travelzoo or in Via Magazine from AAA. A little planning ahead and you can spend for two nights what you normally pay for just one. And if there is no TV, so much the better! I find that having something on the calendar every other month or at least once a quarter keeps the excitement up as you anticipate the next adventure.
- Donate your time – my step daughter has spent the past nine months in Haiti working with Grass Roots United to help local residents recover from the massive earthquake. You don’t have to go quite so extreme but there are local shelters and organizations that could use your help in an instant. Bob at Satisfying Retirement works with ex-convicts to help them adjust to life after prison. Bill at Adventure Retirement traveled to Peru for a year in search of volunteering opportunities. Retirees have the time, there are MANY worthwhile causes, if volunteering works for you everyone wins.
- Share your expertise with the next generation – we all had careers in the “early years” and provided that the industry has not changed drastically our knowledge can still help others to avoid pitfalls we learned by experience.
- Don’t waste any more time – do what you really like to do. What is it that you do or have done in your life that REALLY gives you pleasure? Is there something that when you think about it brings an involuntary smile to your face? With my recent return to the working world (I found the perfect start up company with great people and am really enjoying doing it again) I find myself with less time to blog. But every now and then an idea comes to mind and with a smile on my face I endeavor to put it to words. I really enjoy it when I find precisely the right way to express a feeling I have and share it with my readers. Are you a writer? A painter? A hiker? A biker? Is photography your gig? Restoring old cars? Gardening? It is up to you and there are no rules!
24 hours in a day – 60 minutes in an hour – 60 seconds in a minute.
Don’t waste another…