7 Dates Mature Singles Should Avoid

Post from eHarmony Canada

So, you have a date on Saturday night and it’s your job to pick the place. You know you want somewhere quiet enough that you can get to know your date, but atmospheric enough that you don’t feel like you’re in a giant empty space where the waiters can hear your every word.

There are many great places to have a fun and meaningful first date, but there are also a few places that we suggest more mature singles avoid.

1. Noisy bars

There’s nothing worse than having to shout over the din of thumping music and loud voices. You need to be able to hear what your date is saying, and it gets tiring yelling “Sorry?” and “Say that again?” over and over to try and make out what your date is telling you. You’re better off picking some place a little quieter and more low key where you can both get to know one another with ease.

2. ‘Theme’ restaurants

Restaurants that feature nightly horror shows or waiters dressed in zombie outfits are probably best avoided. While they may be a bit of silly fun in your twenties, they tend to lose their appeal as you get older. Finding fake blood in your burger is probably not the most enjoyable way to spend an evening, so opt for something a little more traditional, especially when you’re just getting started.

3. Strenuous activity

While some dating guides may suggest a fun and vigorous activity for a first date, like rock climbing or scuba diving, you’re probably best to steer clear of anything too strenuous. If you don’t know your date’s fitness level, you may embarrass them by choosing an activity that requires a lot of physical effort.

Stick with a walk in the park or, perhaps, a round of golf.

 

4. Avoid the avant-garde

While you may be a great lover of modern performance art, taking your date to a two-hour interpretive dance retelling of Shakespeare’s ‘Midsummer Night’s Dream’ is not the best way to get to know someone new.

5. A birthday party for someone…younger

Inviting your new date to celebrate a child’s birthday party is a definite no-no. Nothing says ‘dud date’ like a group of kids running around throwing chocolate cake at one another. Keep the meeting strictly adult – no kids allowed.

6. Your place

It’s best to keep things mysterious, at least at the beginning of your relationship. Try and steer clear of inviting your date over to your place – it can send the wrong message and make things a little uncomfortable.

7. Anywhere that’s too crowded

The most important element of any date is that you have the opportunity to enjoy a meaningful conversation. If you’re in a place with too many other people – whether it’s a noisy bar or a crowded amusement park – you’ll lose that ability to listen to one another and really connect on a deeper level.

If you’re looking to meet other mature singles who share the same attitudes and values as you, click here.

How to Be Safe on Senior Dating Sites

Post by Ellie Stevens

In today’s 2012, gone are the traditional methods of dating—nowadays, singles everywhere are heading straight for the internet in search of that special someone.  And if you happen to be a single senior who is looking for love or companionship, senior dating sites are great places to meet your match.

But because the internet provides such anonymity, it unfortunately also provides a place where financial predators, con artists and other dangerous villains wreak havoc on innocent online daters like you.  To avoid finding yourself in a potentially harmful situation, before signing up to a senior dating site, be sure to arm yourself with the following safety tips to ensure a safe and successful experience:

Keep personal information personal.  When composing your online dating profile and communicating with fellow senior singles, never give out any personally identifying details that you wouldn’t feel comfortable with in the hands of a stranger.  This includes material like your last name, home address, phone number, financial info or access to your accounts.

Take things slow.  When you meet someone over the internet who you would like to meet in person, the idea of a first date can be very exciting.  However, it is very important to take the time to get to know one another over the internet first.   Most senior dating sites allow you to build an online connection through voice chat, video chat, email, etc.  Utilize these tools to learn more about the person, watch for red flags or inconsistencies, and determine if your online friend is trustworthy enough to take things to the next level.

Plan a safe first date.  If an online relationship has progressed to the point of a face-to-face date, no matter how well you think you may know someone from your internet contact with them, you must continue to place safety as your number one priority.  Follow these tips for a safe first date:

  • Never rely on your date for transportation—use your own ride to meet your date in a crowded, public place.
  • Tell someone where you are going—let a friend or family member know your whereabouts as well as the name of your date.  Be sure to call when you arrive home and keep a cell phone handy in case you need to reach someone in an emergency.
  • Be observant of your surroundings—forgo the alcohol for the first few dates and keep an eye on your drink as well as belongings like your wallet, purse and phone.

Listen to your intuition.   If at any point you feel uncomfortable while using a senior dating site, don’t ignore that feeling.  Should your gut tell you that something is wrong while in communication with someone you met online, listen to it and cease all contact with that person.  Never be ashamed or embarrassed of your safety precautions.  Anyone who is pursuing you for the right reasons will understand and respect your need for safety.

Ellie Stevens is a guest post author who shares with us her tips for safe online dating.  In addition, Ellie also owns Best Senior Dating Sites where she provides resources for seniors looking for an online match.