Post from eHarmony Canada
So, you have a date on Saturday night and it’s your job to pick the place. You know you want somewhere quiet enough that you can get to know your date, but atmospheric enough that you don’t feel like you’re in a giant empty space where the waiters can hear your every word.
There are many great places to have a fun and meaningful first date, but there are also a few places that we suggest more mature singles avoid.
1. Noisy bars
There’s nothing worse than having to shout over the din of thumping music and loud voices. You need to be able to hear what your date is saying, and it gets tiring yelling “Sorry?” and “Say that again?” over and over to try and make out what your date is telling you. You’re better off picking some place a little quieter and more low key where you can both get to know one another with ease.
2. ‘Theme’ restaurants
Restaurants that feature nightly horror shows or waiters dressed in zombie outfits are probably best avoided. While they may be a bit of silly fun in your twenties, they tend to lose their appeal as you get older. Finding fake blood in your burger is probably not the most enjoyable way to spend an evening, so opt for something a little more traditional, especially when you’re just getting started.
3. Strenuous activity
While some dating guides may suggest a fun and vigorous activity for a first date, like rock climbing or scuba diving, you’re probably best to steer clear of anything too strenuous. If you don’t know your date’s fitness level, you may embarrass them by choosing an activity that requires a lot of physical effort.
Stick with a walk in the park or, perhaps, a round of golf.
4. Avoid the avant-garde
While you may be a great lover of modern performance art, taking your date to a two-hour interpretive dance retelling of Shakespeare’s ‘Midsummer Night’s Dream’ is not the best way to get to know someone new.
5. A birthday party for someone…younger
Inviting your new date to celebrate a child’s birthday party is a definite no-no. Nothing says ‘dud date’ like a group of kids running around throwing chocolate cake at one another. Keep the meeting strictly adult – no kids allowed.
6. Your place
It’s best to keep things mysterious, at least at the beginning of your relationship. Try and steer clear of inviting your date over to your place – it can send the wrong message and make things a little uncomfortable.
7. Anywhere that’s too crowded
The most important element of any date is that you have the opportunity to enjoy a meaningful conversation. If you’re in a place with too many other people – whether it’s a noisy bar or a crowded amusement park – you’ll lose that ability to listen to one another and really connect on a deeper level.
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